Doris Wild Helmering, MSW.,LCSW

Marriage & Family Counselor, group therapist, international author, media personality, business consultant and seminar leader

(314) 965-3803

Thin Becomes You

Ready for a change in your weight, and your ability to lose weight? If so, “Thin Becomes You” will not only show you the way, but will get you there.

How does the mere reading of the quotes in this book actually help you control your eating with enthusiasm and ultimately move you to weight loss?

Constructed with a unique psychological approach called neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), these quotes will “trick your mind,” so to speak, to help you change the habitual ways you think and behave.

For example, the quote, “Ignoring the fact that you carry too much weight doesn’t change the ‘fat,’” may confuse you when you read it initially.

You expected the quote to finish with the word “fact.” When it ended with “fat,” your mind did a double take. That unexpected word makes you stop and think.

Words with opposite meanings appear in many of the quotes. For example,“Every half-pound you lose becomes a gain” pulls a switch on the brain because you generally don’t expect to jump from the word “lose” to “gain.” The quote, “Each time you pile it on, you dig yourself a deeper hole,” also tricks the brain because you didn’t expect a switch in the same sentence. You must think harder about what you have read because the sentence doesn’t follow a familiar pattern, which allows the quote to have a greater impact on you.

In more than thirty years as a health writer, I’ve watched fad diets come and go. The reason is that they target the belly rather than the brain. To change the way you eat, you have to change the way you think and feel about food. And that’s what Thin Becomes You does.

Doris Helmering’s pithy and provocative quotes, based on rigorously tested psychological techniques, nurture new neural pathways to create healthier new eating patterns—and a thinner you. Read and re-read these weight loss thoughts to reach your goal of weighing less.

Dianne Hales Best-selling author of 26 editions of "Invitation to Health "

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How to Practice the 7 Principles of Love

Excerpt 1: LOVE IS REMEMBERING
If you know how to love, you remember.
If your friend has a job interview or a major presentation, you find out how it went. You remember. Your remembering says, "What is going on in your life is important to me.''

You make a point to remember the courses your child is taking, her teachers, and the names of her friends. If your memory isn't good, you write the information down and review it periodically.

You remember a friend's favorite color, favorite flower, what she likes to eat, the type of books she enjoys reading. If she E-mails you a note, you E-mail back. If a favorite book of hers is made into a movie, you bring it up as a subject of conversation. If she completes a project, is awarded a contract, makes a big sale, you offer congratulations.

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How to Take Control of Your Anger

The number one reason you get angry is that you think negative thoughts. When an event happens, instead of putting a neutral or positive interpretation on it, you put a negative interpretation on it. By thinking negative thoughts, you can actually create your own anger. You can give meaning to an event in less than a second. Within a few seconds you can have a number of negative thoughts. Learn how to avoid negative thoughts, name calling, exaggerating, and using a should-and-ought belief system.

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A fun, uplifting middle-grade adventure for the entire family!

Blowing off homework, being harassed by the school bully, and barely surviving a biking accident, 12-year-old Alex while working on a homework assignment discovers the secrets of motivation. A cricket farm, bug bars, a science project involving his entire class and a business contratct with Power Foods Exclusive finds Alex, friends and family poised to cure hunger and feed every human on this planet.

The Boy Whose Idea Could Feed the World will grab the attention of any upper grade or middle school student. Whether interested in science projects, bugs, getting along with others, or motivation, readers are caught up in the story from the first page to the last. Teachers, parents, and counselors will find the book useful to stimulate conversation about difficult topics like bullying, doing well in school, and family illness. Students will love the practical approach to friendship and family. Would make for a great classroom book group discussion!
Dr. Catherine Von Hatten, Educational Consultant, Retired Public School Assistant Superintendent, Teacher, and Principal

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The Parent Teacher Discussion Guide

Bullying, diversity, how to motivate a seemingly unmotivated kid, family values and school values, sadness and loss, self-image and self-esteem, a philosophy of kindness and what a child might want to be when he or she grows up are all topics addressed in, “The Parent Teacher Discussion Guide.” What I had hoped to get across was, “Hey, kid, you’re not alone in the way you think and feel.” Most middle graders have similar questions and are dealing with almost identical issues as they move through grade school.
Excerpts from the middle grade book, “The Boy Whose Idea Could Feed the World” are included as a springboard to start the conversation. As these discussions unfold I believe you’ll discover quite a lot about how your middle grader thinks and feels. If these discussions take place in a classroom, it will quickly become evident that many of their classmates have similar questions, struggles and concerns.
My philosophy: Throw a kid the ball, step back, listen and be reassured they will not only catch the ball but run with it. Never have I been disappointed in how honest, perceptive, candid and bright middle graders can be given the right prompts in a safe environment.

Doris Helmering’s multi-layered book addresses core issues middle students face with warmth, depth and humor. She avoids the lectures and critiques that cause children to roll their eyes and dismiss adult advice by weaving sophisticated information on motivation, bullying, loss, family, and self image in a “fun and crazy” story about an unmotivated and bullied student and his growing interest in bugs and “feeding the world.”

Ms. Helmering begins with the rock bottom belief that all children are naturally motivated to learn and it’s an adult’s job to discover and use their natural curiosity to help them develop the resilience and work habits to succeed in school and life. She says her philosophy is “Throw a kid the ball, step back and listen, listen, listen, and be reassured they will not only catch the ball but run with it. “ The Parent/Teachers Discussion Guide gives parents and teachers the tools to bring this philosophy to life by engaging children in the kind of lively, affirming conversations the protagonist Alex has with Mr. D (his counselor). The combination of The Boy Whose Idea Could Feed the World and the Parent/Teachers Discussion Guide provides parents and teachers a plethora of creative ideas for engaging middle school students in the kind of conversations that eliminate eye rolling and have the power to change their lives.

Barbara Kohm, principal, consultant and author of "The Power of Conversation: Transforming Principals into Great Leaders"

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